[That was] about three and a half years ago.

To me, it’s more than just sex.

There’s a huge difference between a male seeing a female sex worker and a female coming to a male sex worker. The whole psychological aspect is hugely different in how they work.

I’m talking generally. A lot of males are more for the primal ‘tap-and-gap’.

With women, it’s very much a psychological thing. This is how I see it anyway. Once you get into the head of a female, you’ve got the body.

It’s more of a discussion about where we can go, what fantasies we can build.

I try to build it up in their head … telling a story of what we can do.

I take them on a journey of discovery so they can discover what their body is capable of, what pleasure their body is capable of giving them. Because a lot of them have never really experienced good sex where they are the focus of the attention.

That doesn’t happen the other way around often. The guys just go in and say ‘I basically just want to do kink or … you do this, this and this’.

‘I relate better to the older clients’

Generally, I would either go to a hotel, apartment house, or one of the places in town available to a male escort.

Every client is different.

Most of my clients are [in] white collar jobs. They are businesswomen … [in] generally higher paid jobs.

My average [age group of clients] would probably be in their 40s, early 50s. Although I have had clients in their mid-20s, 30s, and the odd one in their late to early 60s.

A lot of the women who see me are in perimenopause or in that time of life for them. And they’ve all of a sudden got this amazing burst of sexual drive.

I find I relate better to the older clients … I think there’s a bit of a generational gap with the younger clients. I’m not bothered by age or body type or anything like that. It’s how they react, how they act – that turns me on, rather than the physical aspect of it.

A lot of my clients are coming out of long-term relationships. A lot of them are quite vanilla. They haven’t done a lot of exploring.

Or they’ve had some trauma in the past. I get quite a lot of that where partners have belittled them and said they’re no good at [sex].

Some of them are extremely nervous when they come to see me, to the point where they’re just a gibbering mess a lot of the time.

Part of my job is to try and calm them down, give them a safe space, convey that I’m a safe person.

One of the things I talk about at the beginning is, ‘is this a limit for you? Do you want me to go there? Do you not want me to go there?’… and that sort of thing.

It’s very consent-driven.

One thing that surprises me is how many women lack confidence and have body dysmorphia, where they think they’ve got a disgusting body or they’re ugly or whatever.

But I look at them and think, ‘wow, she’s really attractive’.

I had one client who had come from a long, mostly sexless relationship.

She had several bookings with me and then started going on to some of the swinging sites … because she built up the confidence to realise, ‘okay, I have got a nice body. I am lovable. I am a sexual being’.

Pleasure from providing pleasure

I’ve been in the kink circles for quite some time.

And I’ve just honed the skill. I’ve done some research online about how to do it and watched some videos.

I get a lot of pleasure from providing pleasure. For me there’s a huge thrill in seeing them build up to an orgasm.

My ultimate goal is to walk away knowing that I’ve done the best job I can to satisfy her cravings and pleasure.

I don’t care if I [climax]. I don’t care if they touch me. That’s not where I’m at.

I am married.

Catching the feels is not something I’m really wanting to do. It does happen, don’t get me wrong.

I had a lady that I was seeing quite often and she’d invite me to stay the night or travel … But I never accepted because there has to be a line in the sand between professionalism and not.

[My wife has] played with the idea of doing some [escort] work herself. We go to kink parties quite often and have a lot of fun. And she’s an attractive lady.

I [also] have a partner. We’re in a polyamorous relationship.

My kids don’t know and I don’t want them to know. Or my family.

To clients, I’m an escort photographer, I’m an escort, and that’s all they know.

Yes, I do pay taxes.

I know of multiple people who are really close friends [who are sex workers] who can’t get a mortgage because of what they do.

That’s part of why I’m very careful about what I do and who I tell. The stigma is very much alive and kicking for both male and female.

My experiences with sex workers – I’ve been on the other side as well and seen sex workers in the past – they’re the most amazing, intelligent people I’ve ever met. Some of them are so business savvy, it’s not funny.

I didn’t expect to get so much reward from doing it … sharing my passion is what I do this for. The money’s nice, but it’s not the be-all and end-all.

It’s the interaction with bloody amazing women and getting paid for it. I mean, getting paid to have sex – there’s nothing better than that.

But it’s getting paid to have sex with amazing women.

And it’s something that I would never imagine I would have ever been doing at this point in my life.